There is no special theology of “personal relationship with Jesus” in the Bible; that personal relationship is very simple: do what He commands. It is not based on emotions or feelings. It is based on the self-conscious commitment to do what He commands.
My two cents
I agree; I’ve never liked that personal relationship trope. The way I see it, when personal relationships become the nucleus of one’s orthopraxy, then its on the way to existentialism, and living your religion inside your head. This, I suppose, is what you end up with by having a relationship with someone you’ve never met.
It reminds me of a lesbian pastor who said that her relationship with Jesus was just as valid as the next person’s—she was only pushing the trope to its logical conclusion, the result being to water the teachings of Christianity down so much that orthopraxy is increasingly meaningless.
Let’s remember it’s by their fruits—not their thoughts—that you shall know them. A personal relationship with Jesus is fine, but that’s a matter between you and Jesus—it’s not of great value to anyone else who’s not you. Let’s see fig trees producing fruit for a change. If not, they’ll get destroyed.
Marinov, B. (2012). Relationship vs. Purpose: How the Church Destroys the Christian Family. Available: http://americanvision.org/5555/relationship-vs-purpose-how-the-church-destroys-the-christian-family/. Last accessed 1st May 2012.